Finifugal: (adj.) hating endings; of someone who tries to avoid or prolong the final moments of a story, relationship, or some other journey.
How do you encapsulate nearly four years of a vital and life-founding friendship into words? Four years of proximity, of wide travels and unforeseen mishaps and all of the laughter and the inside jokes formed in between? A friend moving away, unexpected or not, might seem a little commonplace, I know, but this particular friend and parting is deserving of a great deal of fanfare in both my and the minds of many others here sad to see her go. I don’t feel that it would be right to close this chapter of life without a proper nod to someone who has been instrumental in shaping me into the person I am and hope to become
When I first met my friend Allison we were both re-entering a college at the beginning of the spring semester, two of a small crowd all huddled in a room for orientation early on a Monday morning. I doubt either of us would have believed you had you old us we’d not only become fast friends, but move across the country, and even across the world, together. Having her company has become an almost constant ever since, so much so that I don’t know what to do now that she’s parting ways to head back west. I want to properly celebrate this person and her friendship without the clamouring of self interrupting, but Allison is probably best understood by her actions towards others. When I was floundering she offered support. When I needed a home, she offered hers. When I needed advice (whether or not I wanted it) it was there and it was wise and full of caring. She is someone who constantly pushes her boundaries and inspires others to do the same.
This isn’t meant to be a long and morose post, just a note of appreciation for someone who is always willing to jump in despite how uncomfortable it may be, just so long as she feels someone may benefit; for someone who has constantly put the needs of others before herself while also learning to achieve a balance that allows her to protect her space; for someone who has spent the past year earnestly seeking who she is and how God intends to use that for His glory.
To Allison: I’m so incredibly lucky to have been privy to these past years of growth in your life, and a constant beneficiary to your selfless love. As flatmates and friends we both know there have arisen instances of frustration, but even when I splash green all over the white trim in my haste to finish painting the kitchen, or sing at the top of my lungs the same showtime you’ve been hearing the past two weeks, you’re patience and integrity win the day. Thank you for being my buddy-back, my Captain of the Friendship-Ship. May your quiet confidence and steady, good-natured love and sense of adventure continue to inspire others as it has inspired me, and may we continue to challenge each other as sisters and friends running this race together, no matter the miles that separate us. May your quiet confidence, steady, good-natured love, and sense of adventure continue to inspire everyone lucky enough to cross your path, and may we continue to challenge each other as sisters and friends running this race together, no matter the miles that separate us. Sirius and I can’t wait to see you again soon.